If you have decided to file for divorce, or are a party to a divorce proceeding, you may want to resolve matters, if at all possible, without the need to go to trial. Divorce litigation can be costly, in terms of time, money and emotions. There are options that will not only minimize stress, anxiety and expense, but will give you greater control over how your differences are resolved. This blog post looks at the ways you can avoid divorce litigation.

The first step to minimizing the risk of divorce litigation is to fully understand the costs of taking matters to trial. If you choose to dispute everything, and require a judge or jury to determine the outcome, you will necessarily go through a lengthy process. Once a divorce complaint has been filed, the court will establish a discovery schedule. This sets forth the amount of time that will be spent gathering all relevant information to determine child custody and visitation, child support, alimony or spousal support, and the division of marital debts and assets. In most instances, there will be requests for production of documents, as well as depositions of parties and other relevant witnesses. Your lawyer will expect to be paid for every task they handle for you. If they draft a request for production of documents, or a response to such a request, you will be billed. When they review all documents, you will be billed. When they appear on your behalf at a deposition, meeting or hearing, you will be billed. And, in addition to the expense, such actions take time.

Once you understand the cost of divorce litigation in terms of time and money, you should take a look at alternative means of dispute resolution, including negotiated settlements, mediation, and the collaborative approach to divorce. In a negotiated settlement, you and your counsel work directly with your ex-spouse and opposing counsel to work out agreements governing custody and support, as well as property matters. In mediation, you work with a neutral third party, who facilitates efforts to find mutually beneficial solutions. In the collaborative law process, you and your ex-spouse agree to try to resolve all matters without the intervention of the court. Your lawyers can also participate in the process.

The common component of successful negotiation efforts, mediation and collaborative law attempts is a willingness to work with your former spouse to find solutions that work for both of you. This means you may have to identify those items that are not negotiable and those about which you can be flexible. In all matters related to your minor children, however, you should always give priority to what is in their best interests.

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Resolving Your Differences through Alternative Means

If you have come to the conclusion that your marriage cannot be saved, you can seek to settle your disputes in court. However, divorce litigation is typically costly, both financially and emotionally. If you have minor children involved, or if you want or need to maintain a positive relationship with your ex-spouse, you may want to consider other alternatives.

Divorce Mediation

In the mediation process, you work with a third party whose task is to help you find a mutually beneficial solution to all your differences. The mediator is neutral and does not represent either party. The mediator typically does not take testimony from witnesses, although both parties to the divorce have an opportunity to tell their story. The mediator does not make decisions about such issues as custody, visitation, support and property distribution, but helps the parties work together to identify and implement an outcome that is in everyone’s best interests. If you resolve all your differences, the mediator may help you put together an agreement that is enforceable in court.

There are many benefits to divorce mediation. First, because you have to work cooperatively to find solutions, mediation can allow you to maintain a positive relationship moving forward. Because you don’t have to get on the court’s docket, and don’t typically have to engage in discovery (gathering and sharing evidence), the mediation process can be completed much faster than litigation. Unlike litigation or even arbitration, you get to participate fully in the decision-making. You can make suggestions regarding how your differences will be resolved, and can always reject an offer from your ex-spouse. In most instances, the mediation process will be less expensive than other forms of dispute resolution.

The Arbitration Process

Arbitration can look similar to mediation, but has significant differences. In arbitration, you work with a third party, but the third party is typically someone with an extensive understanding of divorce and family law. The arbitrator performs a role similar to that of a judge, considering evidence and making rulings regarding how custody and visitation will work, whether there will be spousal support (and how much will be paid), and how marital debts and assets will be divided.

The arbitration process still offers significant advantages over divorce litigation. In most instances, you will be able to complete the arbitration process far more quickly than you will be able to resolve matters in court. Arbitration can be binding or non-binding. If it is non-binding, you have the right to reject the ruling of the arbitrator, and can still seek to resolve your dispute in court.

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What are the Differences between Divorce Mediation, Arbitration, and Traditional Divorce?

If your marriage is coming to an end, New Jersey provides you with options as far as the process of dissolution. Many divorcing couples today choose mediation, arbitration, or combine one of those processes with traditional divorce. You can approach each method with our without hiring an attorney. The process that is right for you depends on your relationship with your spouse, your financial situation, your interest in negotiating rather than litigating (going to trial), and the complexity of issues involved. The following paragraphs consider control (who makes the final decision), privacy, and cost.

Who makes the final decision, privacy, and other issues

In successful divorce mediation, you and your spouse choose a mediator to help as you make all decisions regarding division of property and alimony/support. You and your spouse decide what the rules will be as your proceed. The meetings with you, your spouse, and the mediator conclude when you have worked out a divorce agreement. You and your spouse may consult with divorce attorneys during or at the conclusion of the process. Either party can discontinue mediation at any time and refuse to sign any agreement. If both spouses sign a divorce agreement, the family court judge will typically approve it quickly, and it will become part of the divorce judgment. If the divorce involves children, the court will take your wishes into consideration when determining custody and child support. Mediation is usually substantially less expensive than a litigated divorce. Mediation is a private, closed process. The records are not public.

In divorce arbitration, you and your spouse will choose an arbitrator to decide on the terms of your divorce, including division of property and debt, alimony/spousal support, and child support. You may select a professional with special expertise in an area of concern, such as tax law or special needs child support, or simply choose an arbitrator you feel comfortable with. You decide whether the decision of the arbitrator will be binding. The arbitrator will examine the facts and listen to each of you present your case, and then make a decision. If you agreed on binding arbitration, you will not have the right to appeal the decision, although the court will review child support and child custody issues if requested. Divorce arbitration is considered a less difficult and expensive process than traditional divorce. Arbitration is a private, closed process. Records are not public.

In traditional divorce, one spouse files a complaint for divorce. The court then sets a schedule of appearances. Each spouse will independently decide whether to hire counsel. If you hire a lawyer for your divorce, you will have little direct communication with the judge—your attorney will handle most statements. Your attorney and you’re your spouse/spouse’s lawyer will charge fees for all time spent preparing for or discussing the case. If no agreement is negotiated, the case is litigated in court. Court records are public, the terms of the divorce are decided by whichever judge hears the case, and attorney fees may be considerably higher than in a mediated or arbitrated divorce.

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Factors to Consider When Choosing a Divorce Mediator

By pursuing divorce mediation, you are taking an important step toward resolving issues in the most financially and emotionally economical manner. When you approach the court with property, child support and custody agreements you have worked out yourself, you have maintained control of your future and that of your children. The judge is very likely to approve your agreement and include its terms in the final divorce settlement.

Now, what factors should you consider when choosing a divorce mediator? And where can you look?

When you contact a divorce mediator, be prepare to discuss the following points:

Credentials. You should feel very comfortable asking for a clear explanation of a divorce mediator’s credentials. New Jersey does not require family law and divorce mediators to be licensed or certified. It does have certain training and supervised experience requirements for mediators working in court-approved settings. Training requirements can be met through a relevant advanced degree or by completing a course approved by the court. Experience can fulfill part of training requirements. Professional mediation associations may base membership and referral requirements on the state standard. Has the mediator been appointed to the matrimonial roster maintained by the New Jersey Administrative Office of the Courts?

Personality and style. You and your spouse have to feel comfortable with the mediator’s style. Will you feel more comfortable with someone who simply facilitates your discussion, or are you looking for someone to give direct instructions? Will you feel safe and comfortable discussing sensitive issues with this person? You and your spouse may each want to meet with the mediator to get a first take on compatibility. The divorce mediator should not be offended if you decide to work with another person.

Experience and reputation. Ask how long the mediator has been in practice and how many divorce he or she has handled in the last two years. Ask about results— what percentage of mediations were successful, and how many couples ended up litigating their cases. (An average rate of successful mediated resolutions would be in the 65-80 percent range.) Is the mediator willing to provide references? Have any complaints been filed with the courts or professional mediation associations? Does the mediator train or mentor newer members of the profession?

Cost. Fees should be clearly stated. The mediator who charges the lowest rate will not necessarily be the most economical choice, but there should be no question about the billing structure.

Does the mediator work with attorneys? Some mediators suggest clients have respective divorce lawyers review their final agreement.

The number of meetings necessary to reach an agreement will depend on the complexity of your issues and the distance you and your spouse have to cover to meet at a common ground. A skillful divorce mediator will guide you as you set aside painful personal issues and focus on the business at hand: preserving the maximum marital estate, developing an agreement the court will approve as fair, and if there are children, providing the best possible outcome from their perspective.

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What is Divorce Mediation?

Divorce mediation is a process where a neutral party helps a couple work out the terms of their divorce. The third party, a certified mediator, does not make any decisions. Rather, the mediator works with the couple, guiding their discussions and helping them focus on solutions that preserve the value of the marital estate, are fair to both spouses, and are in the best interests of their children. It is the mediator’s job to provide a calm, professional presence in an emotionally difficult situation

Mediation is a private process. Typically the spouses will sign a contract agreeing to keep the discussions confidential. The discussions will not be admitted as evidence in any later court appearances.

Each divorce agreement is unique. The length of the mediation process depends on the complexity of issues involved and how far the spouses are from agreement. Mediation begins with a series of meetings including both spouses and the mediator. The number and length of meetings will vary. Divorce is a difficult process, always following the pain and disappointment of a failed marriage. It is common for spouses to place irrational importance on small issues, or fail to see the burden a custody battle will place on their children. The mediator will help them refocus on important issues and put others in perspective. It is necessary that both spouses be willing to put forth an honest effort to reach an agreement. If one or both are seriously combative, mediation will not be an effective solution.

You may still have an attorney review your agreement. When the couple has reached agreement on some or all issues, the mediator will prepare related documents to be submitted to the court as part of the final divorce proceedings. Many mediators recommend that their clients engage separate attorneys to review the agreements before finalization. Although that is not required by the court, it provides an additional layer of protection for each party. It is an economical alternative to working through the agreement process with your attorney present.

New Jersey divorce courts support mediated settlements. A mediated agreement is generally considered superior to a decision rendered by a judge. Both parties have invested time and emotional energy in reaching common ground. The mediator has helped them work out reasonable agreements and get past apparent roadblocks. With few exceptions, judges approve the agreements.

New Jersey courts recognize mediated property settlements and child support agreements, although a child support agreement may be reviewed if there is a question about the child’s welfare. In a related process, collaborative divorce, each party is represented by separate counsel, and the mediation process may involve a child psychologist, property evaluator and other experts. Some collaborative divorce lawyers, as part of their commitment to mediation, refuse to later represent their clients in litigation.

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Mount Laurel Divorce Temporary Orders Attorneys

Divorce often involves recriminations, accusations, and feelings of betrayal. As a result, people can end up acting in ways they’d never thought they would in an effort to hurt the person who hurt them. Consequently, temporary orders are important in any divorce since they afford essential protections for both spouses and their children.

What are temporary orders? In New Jersey they are known as Pendente Lite Orders. They are orders pending the Final Judgment of Divorce. These orders are issued by a judge in order to establish the financial and parental rights and responsibilities of each spouse throughout the divorce process and to retain the status quo until there is a final hearing.

Why are Temporary Orders Important in My Divorce?

In New Jersey, spouses have a great deal of leeway to decide for themselves how to interact and make certain kinds of financial and parenting decisions prior to and during a divorce unless there is an Order of the Court placing restraints and limitations. This can leave both spouses vulnerable, for example if one or the other decides to sell property, max out credit cards, stop paying bills, emptying a bank account, or suddenly move out of town with the children.

In New Jersey, when the Divorce Complaint is filed there are no automatic stays except for the modification of insurances, life, heath, homeowners and car. An application must be made to the Court asking for relief, including but not limited to the support of a spouse and the children, temporary custody and parenting time, restraints on the disposition of assets, preventing a parent from moving out of state with the children, responsibility to pay bills etc. For these reasons, it’s important to ask your attorney to request that the court issue temporary/ pendente lite orders protecting your financial interests and parental rights.

Temporary Orders, Spousal Support, and Parenting Plans

While each divorce is different, in general, temporary orders do not change throughout a divorce. In fact, in most cases temporary orders may serve as the foundation for any final parenting plan or spousal maintenance order in a divorce settlement. This is especially important to remember in regard to parental rights during your divorce.
If your spouse intends to ask for full custody of your children, his or her attorney may ask for a temporary restraining order. If granted, this will affect your access to your kids and any final parenting plan approved by the court. Consequently, requesting temporary orders that guarantee you access to your children protects your long-term custody interests.

Contact Mount Laurel Divorce Temporary Orders Attorneys

Regardless of how well you believe you and your spouse resolve differences, don’t assume this will continue through your divorce. Once financial issues arise, your spouse’s divorce attorney could take a more aggressive approach, leaving you on the defensive. To protect yourself and learn how we can help you, contact Mount Laurel divorce temporary orders attorneys at Taylor & Boguski, LLC today to schedule an appointment and discuss your case.